Acquired: Other (stray, given cat by friend etc.)
Posted Apr 29, 2014
Sam belonged to a neighbor. For about three years, I would see him around the neighborhood, but, when he was alone, he wouldn’t let me get close. Sadly, he usually wasn’t alone; most of the times that I saw him during those years, he was being chased and harassed by other tomcats. Sam is an intact male, but he doesn’t act like one. He’s not aggressive or dominant--he’s a lover, not a fighter--so he was not accepted by other intact male felines as an equal.
I guess he got enough of a break from the bullying by spending time in his previous owner’s house, because he didn’t feel compelled to seek refuge elsewhere. But about two-and-a-half years ago, the neighbor’s house burned down. They had to move, and they didn’t take Sam with them; they just left him to fend for himself. With his home and his people gone, he decided take up residence in my yard. He was still bullied by other toms, but he was protected from dogs by the fence, and could get under my porch to escape inclement weather. And, perhaps because he no longer had anyone else, he started being friendly to me.
My husband and I had two indoor cats, and hubby likes to maintain a two cat limit, but Sam won him over. Any time he got worked over by another cat, he’d sit on the table on the porch and stare at us through the window. I secretly hoped hubby would cave and let Sam it, but I didn’t force the issue. I didn’t have to. Sam was pitiful and persuasive. His cute face and pleading eyes worked better on my husband than my words would have.
The day finally came when he got to come inside. He fit in well with our other cats, a neutered male and a spayed female. In a weird twist, Sneaker, the neutered male, is the dominate dude of the household, and unfixed Sam is the submissive one. He’s a sweet, cuddly guy, and I’m so glad he’s in our lives.
Even though he’s not fixed, he doesn’t spray. The vet recommends neutering him, but I don’t see the point. When I first encountered him, he was already an adult, so he must be at lease six years old; the vet estimates seven years. I figured if he hasn’t started spraying yet, he probably never will.